I can't stress enough how important it is to not only take care of your body but also to take care of your mind. I have recently learned that I don't have the time or energy to get caught up in the drama, gossip, and just plain stupidity of others. My illness is more important than energy spent pleasing others or keeping up with the lives of those who wouldn't do the same for me. It's too exhausting and my focus is better to be kept on the most important things like those I love, my illness, and self-betterment.
I found this gem (below) on Facebook and it really resonated with me because I feel like I just recently allowed myself to let go. I realized I could use more positivity and less negativity because getting caught up in this illness can easily push you to your breaking point. It can easily take hold and pull you into a sea of helplessness and sorrow. I see it a lot in my MS community. People tend to hold on to the negative aspects and spread them. For instance, if you bring up hope for a cure you might be met with lots of "there will never be a cure, get used to it." See the negativity?
You might say, "well, not everyone can be miss little ray of sunshine like you Julie. Your just blowing smoke." The idea isn't to be unrealistically positive. It's to hold on to hope because that is all we have and if you're going to be negative then who does that help? Spreading your misery to others, especially those who are in a very similar situation is being quite vindictive and cold. Life is too short and if you live like that then it's only fair to ask are you even living or just being destructive and whose life are you working to break down?
The point I am trying to make is that at the end of the day the most important person is you, your health, and your loved ones. All the others that bring the toxic sludge into your life need to be washed away. You don't have to save them. You don't have to be their friend. You most certainly don't owe them anything. Whatever you give is yours to give but don't exhaust yourself trying to hold a sinking boat afloat with people who are capable of repairing their own damage.
Take a moment to read what's below and think about who might be in your life and what they contribute to you. Take time to ask yourself how you can handle/fix this and decide who can stay and who you need to start distancing yourself from.
Remember to be strong and take your control back!
“I no longer have patience for certain things,
not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply
because I reached a point in my life where I do
not want to waste more time with what
displeases me or hurts me.
I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism
and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please
those who do not like me, to love those who do
not love me, and to smile at those who do not
want to smile at me.
I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie
or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist
anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty, and cheap praise.
I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic
arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping.
I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world
of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid
and inflexible personalities.
In friendship, I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal.
I do not get along with those who do not know how
to give a compliment or a word of encouragement.
Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty
accepting those who do not like animals. And on
top of everything I have no patience for anyone
who does not deserve my patience.”
- Meryl Streep
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